He admitted she emailed him for the next four weeks and he would answer her back. Okay, well then, my next question was where he slept if he didnt sleep with her? Now I am getting these emails. When I was 6 months pregnant he mentioned he was unhappy in our relationship. Nowadays men are irresponsible and unfortunately the society sees men as people with little rights. Be strong and show these men why they need women. Instead, either ask them to come to you or pay for a cab. As I read your comments I think to myself YES! I recently learned he was reaching out to strange women through Facebook. I am so sorry to hear this. As you type a single letter, any searches that begins with that letter will show up along with the date. That marriage by the way ended because my wife was sleeping with another man. Maybe thats the best place to start. He still finds me physically attractive because he still wants me but I feel that he is trying to distance himself from me. RECENTLY, A EMPLOYEE WITH TCS IN RALEIGH N.C. If you want to know if your husband is lying about cheating. I understand now I was bigger and better person than he was all along. It lasted about 2 or 3 months. She was already in a relationship too so it ended. my baby tried to come last night, he was supposed to get off at 6 but called me at 558 and said hell be working til 9 and hell meet me at the hospital when hes done working. When I call that office I only speak to him and would never play such games. If you didn't cheat on your husband, he most likely passed the STD on to you. Now my gut confronts me again, he went on a short 3day business trip. I decided once and for all that day i will never ever turn my back to that person in my life agan enough is enough. Also his job has a bad reputation of people having affairs. I have confronted him several times, showed up there once (that was a bad idea) he got so upset. If you dont leave this sh**tbag now he will worm his little way right back into you heart through his disgraceful lies he has already done this once before and you were kind enough to give him another chance 2 chances is more than enough! Im glad you spoke up! OMG I know how you feel my Husband is a Pastor and I snooped and found out he meets women on a dating site and one lady he even gives her money. The marriage isnt working and youre not compatible. INTRESR COMPLETELY LOST. He claims that Im wrong and it says we are in a relationship. He said he never kissed all the way to sex with her. So if he's thinking it's better to deny 'til you die, here are 10 signs he cheated even if he won't admit it. In the past he has forgotten to turn the feature on and I have found texts which would indicate to an ordinary reader that he was cheating. Although lately I have this same gut feeling I had when I was suspecting him of cheating. Then, Fall of 2010, I thought my hub. I have been keeping track of my husbands erectile dysfunction meds and today discovered one was gone and he is planning a business trip to Calgary. Spying, calling around, and interrogating their partners, women invest their energy in a senseless hunt to prove what is already obvious: the relationship is seriously broken. If you think your husband is lying about cheating, then you need to decide if you want to stay with him, or if you want to leave him. Our daughters age. There is hope. they refer to each other as baby. My amazing man who lifted up my spirits like nobody else could, had shattered my world with an affair. It's OK to describe emotions, but be careful not to ruminate and obsess i ndefinitely, or hold a perpetually aggressive stance. I believe my husband is cheating on me. I pray for strength to move forward in your life, to decide what you need to do with your future! The only reason i think people who have been married for years might have a chance at fixing it, is because they built a relationship and fell in love with each other once. Youve just found out that your husband is cheating on you. He is so much addict of it that I am pretending that all is fine around me . His behavior caused me to have no self esteem, no self worth, and no motivation. The history has probably been cleared again. It sounds totally one sided and he sounds like hes treating you like crap. but yes it is wrong. He does not deserve your love or loyalty. So, I can only hope that my story is either consolation during your trying time or its food-for-thought during your careful consideration on staying married. Then little by little he began weaving his was into my life, we became very emotionally close! Hey lost! Im glad for you that your spirit and soul has already told you what you need to do! He would get overly mad when I bought her up. He makes up stories, I already know he is lying but he continues doing it thinking I wont find out. The other problem you have is that you are dependent on this man. Btw. One night he was on call at the local tow company he worked for and a text message came in that he slept through. I dont know about anyone else but I find it really strange that a man in his late 50s has these 19, 21, 32 and 46 year old female friends that 1) I dont know any of them other than the 19 year old, 2) that he goes to dinner with on a regular basis and 3) is out every single night. Hey anonymous, pretty sure thats my husband your venting about. They even did their thesis together. Im a very gorgeous girl, and i feel he is lucky 2 have me but sometimes i feel he is cheating and lying about it. I confronted him the next day about this and he admitted he had a crush on her but that nothing happened between them. I think he uses people to get things that he wants. I want to see a marriage counselor but cant. Yep men cheat no matter what. A friend doesnt cheat on his wife. The best way to know if you can trust your husband is if he takes himself out of possibly bad situations. Ask his wife because she is risking not only her best friend but a potential financial ruin and I dont care what smooth talking husband has told you. In fact, 88% of men say their affairs are with women who arent more beautiful than their wives. Weve been married 14 years, together 16. Or, maybe all you need to know is that your marriage needs help. I have been cheating on my husband for 3 years. U dont mention u have any children. Since this has happened, there has not been a day that I dont talk about it with him. He tikd me that he loves me and does not want a divorce but if you think that your correct than you have to do what you need to do is what I am told. I was the one that felt we should wait to move in together, but he insisted we shouldnt wait, he was looking forward to our life together. There is so much emotional turmoil in your comments, so much confusion, pain, hurt. Then he got into this role playing game second life online and he is maintaining relationships with women who play this game. Unless he was willing to help me repair it. Well while I was going through our cell phone records tonight I saw that from the weekend he got up there he has been messaging back and forth over 100 time in two weeks with one particular number. This was the case with my man. I think they have a better handle on whats going on than I ever could (because they know you!). thank u in advance. I have a boyfriend who i love dearly. ive been there with husband texting girls, emailing. Can you imagine who you could be without your cheating husband, what you can do, where you could go? I showed him an article about an Emotional Affair and he told me he didnt realize that what he did was considered that, but accepts that now. Thankfully, She was saying no to him and saying that isnt being very faithful. So shocked i didnt even cry or carry on. He be littles me constantly which is very hurtful. My husband and I have been married almost a year now. and when i bring it up with him, he just says he was kidding, and that he would never cheat on me. Everything was wonderful and I was more than greatful that God had placed such a humble man in my life. 12? This is why I commented on your post (experience). In my experience, cheaters rarely admit it, even when blatantly caught out. However I cannot guess what is goign through my partners head. I was doing christmas. I keep having nightmares hes cheating again but he swears hes not and I should trust him again. Am contemplating ending the marriage. I also encourage you to book a session or two with a marriage counselor, so both you and your husband can learn tools for rebuilding your marriage. Its crazy-making. He told me the truth because his lovers husband or partner was threatening him so she couldnt continue with the affair. I have asked him multiple times if I was what he really wanted and if I wasnt I would be okay with it. I cried and cried. I had no idea what to think. If you happen to be in the Muncie/Indiana area, and his name happens to be Donald then Hi!! The biggest in your face, a ha i got you was not good though walked in on my husband cheating with the other woman. So, it brings me, again, to ask why are you asking women who have and can lose everything they ever wanted in life: a husband who is faithful if you should have an affair with a married man? I dont believe the things he says he wants to improve on because its now Aug 2014, almost a year since i found out all the crap that came out over the months of Nov and Dec 2014, he doesnt plan romantic wkends, he doesnt talk to me much and when he does, it feels like excuses for why he doesnt do anything not enough money (which is BS) not enough time, what do i do with the kids, im tired, i work a lot, etc etc. Huge fight on Christmas Eve, and I stupidly told him to leave. Like this is not the first flirting scene hes done.. A few months ago I looked at his phone and he was messaging a Colombian girl saying everything he has ever told me to her! ), and he is leading her on. This is not a religious debate, and if you are considering replying with such, dont waste your time. It seems he doesnt want to be intimate to me emotionally and physically. I got married 2 yrs ago. An Ex-CIA Polygraph Examiner Reveals What Men Dont Want You to Know, Dan Crum reveals the two biggest signs of deception, the best way to trap a liar, and what to look and listen for when you suspect your husband is lying about having an affair. When you said for better or for worse, you didnt expect your marriage to unfold this way, did you? Okay, he finally moved out. I think she forgot he was not at work when she placed that Thursday Morning call. I found out about my boyfriends affair with another woman through his cellphone. There is something going on. Take this quick quiz to see if he actually likes you! Its normal to feel confused and get mixed messages from your instincts, because this is an extremely emotional subject. I also found a journal entry that he wrote after I confronted the cheating and he said in the journal entry he feels less of a man because he vowed to me that he would never do the things all of the other men have done to me ( exs ) and he just kept writing that he feels so much less of a man and I honestly hated reading that because I dont want the man that I love feeling that way but then again I want him to feel the pain im in. Sometimes this is not the case and they are just sexually unfulfilled, but usually its the emotional part. Especially since you were battling cancer, and needed all the love and support we could give you. (Gross, I know.). Here you can see any hotel stays or anything that might look like gifts bought for another woman. He says that he loves nothing more than me and they meant NOTHING to him then the pure satisfaction of nailing other woman like a macho man does. What do you think? My life has become 1 big nightmare! The sad part is I want my kids to have a mommy and daddy under one roof. ReadEmotional Affairs Vs. Innocent Friendshipsto learn the difference between the two types of cheating. I will never have the answers to so many questions because my husband doesnt respect or value me enough after 20+ years of love and devotion, to give me any answers so I can have some kind of closure. It was a women but he said it was his friend who is male. Keep your head up and think about my advice a little bit because I think it wont hurt to clear your head before continuing this fishy situation. When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact-finding mission. But I believe that in reality monogamy is unnatural for humans. This is not the first time that Ive caught him texting/ flirting with other women. Your belly is screaming at you. And just before he gets friends with girl number on, hes unfriends this second girl. But different things predicted the behavior for men and women. Please and Ty Melissa. So he could have cheated then and i wouldnt have known, He emotional abuses me and i have finally started to stand my ground on this. He is cheating,so Am I. I need out. It was bad enough that one woman came forth but now a second one. I screamed at him why? There are good men who get cheated on or just get stereotyped. I planted a recorder in my husbands car but he found it. How do I approach him about this without causing problems in my own marriage? And yes, it turns out, all the other things were stress at work, including being out at a very tense meeting that ran late. I need some advice asap on what to do or how to go about confronting him again. Am I being super paranoid or have a good gut feeling? When we first started off. I decided to check his cell phone records and when he walked up behind me and asked why was I on our wireless account. He went to great lengths to make me feel secure. He never told me he was going to be in the car with her. I no in my heart hes cheated but he wont admire it which I so want from him. (Well, I actually think the most important relationship is with God, but thats a whole different animal :-) ). When it comes in, I do believe ill be moving out then. i told him its over the same time the other lady react and tells him you did not tell me you got girlfriend then he said now you know as from today you should know you are 2. He said he wanted to reconcile and I told him I didnt know if that was possible . Theres alot of stress at home, with the kids and parents. Nancy, your Husband is cheating with the young lady. We had a huge reckoning to each other. The most important thing you need to do after hearing this devastating news is to find out if its definitely true. I finally took the kids and left first of March. As for his decision to work without pay that was a decision I had absolutely no say in, since as far as he was concerned it was his career and his life, and not my choice to make, even if it affected the entire family. One day I looked at his phone that I pay for and saw a text saying I love you babe and he tried to make it sound like it was one of his kids baby mamas but it wasnt. Ive been willing to work, but am growing impatient and feeling more and more like I should just leave. My husband changed so much he started lying about drug use . He swears that they have no contact anymore and he wants to make it work with me. All because i wanted to keep a spark in our marriage. Help someone. If you get healthy and whole again you may actually be able to figure out what a healthy one (man) looks like. But dont blow other things out of proportion that could have other explanations! If he is involved with someone the investigator will find out within the first week which means you wont have to shell out a lot of money. In a few days from that first prayer, something kept gently nudging me one night check his phone. This just so happens to be the EXACT situation I am currently in with my husband! Your husband cheating might not seem like the life-ending situation that requires a doctor, however, many us dont realize just how emotionally tarring the breakdown of a marriage can be. He cried and threw up and then later said.. may i date you? A week later, because I found an unknown name in his address book of his email and asked him who it was, he confessed that it was the girl in that picture. He just checked out of the marriage . what do you think, could it have happend. Sorry this is long but i have no idea what to do, im scared he is cheating on me even if it is just txt messgaes. I let it go on. Three kids. I had a brief infidelity and lied to save face. What I dont get is if hes not married and cares about her why dose he not break off the marriage? What do YOU think? He changed all his passwords to Facebook and email and he always deletes everything off his phone. He has always been a wonderful father. I know love can withstand the test if time. I asked him about that, he insist that not he send! A neighbor? I have felt like my husband has been cheating for year. I dunno what to think my gut tells me he has been unfaithful to me and i dunno what to do or whether to believe my gut or not 1 I dont understand? Either way, you may learn more about their relationship, which will help you move forward. I found out he had been texting and seeing a 24 year old girl. I dont know what else to do!!!! This woman is 26. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. (he knew how they hated me so used them as an escape). The Holy Spirit will reveal all things. I had found years ago where he was emailing two different people talking to them. Your strength will grow. Ive been praying for seven years for God to confirm the feelings Ive been having that my husband has cheated on me, and havent received an answer. I went back. My husband went away on business the same weekend i took our daughters on a shopping trip, but my gut told me different. I am truly sorry and know your pain I am going through divorce its hard as hell going back to school further my education moving to FL after divorce .. please take care of yourself and know your not alone hugs .. I thought at the time, there was a good chance of an affair. I kinda wish the chit would have hit the fan. About 3 months ago(2015) on a Thursday morning at 7:50am in the morning my husbands cell phone rang while we were being intimate. Get yourself on the treadmill and run it out. It sounds like youve been struggling with your husband for a long time, and youre confused about what to do. Do you respect yourself enough to leave him? My prayer for you is that you find the resources you need to move past your husbands past. ANYONE PLZ.!!!!!!!!!!!! That way, when he sees you next looking strong and beautiful, he will feel beyond guilty and desperate to win you back regardless of whether you want him or not. I think talking to someone who is objective in-person, not online is the best way to work through feelings of suspicion, hurt, rejection, etc. I literaly have to beg him for a little extra money from him for our child, he works for the rail road, so I know he has the little bit of money that I ask for from him which normaly I dont ever ask for no more than maybe 50 dollors, but I only ask because he uses the car when he gets home and when he goes to work he leaves me with no emergency money and leaves the car with no gas, and with a baby thats just not good for either of us. i totally lost it then. I set up a place for us to meet and he showed up. Wow Christine. We havent been able to reconnect emotionally very well in the past 3 years. Saying it was old friends catching up and when I found the picture, he didnt tell me saying he knew I would blow it out of proportion and think it was more than it was. Both men and women are vulnerable to temptation and mistakesand thats where trust comes in. Well one evening he came home after their father died and asked me if I was going to the wake. He brings me presents, buys me shoes and takes me out more. I do love him but do not want to go further with someone who cant make me feel safe. Lately, hes late Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday and do not call if he is. 1 man, 1 woman, both had witnessed rubbing, hugging, her leaning on him, playing games on a computer together in a room alone and flirting all the time. Over the years even after we got married back in 2013, our relationship has become more and more difficult. I cant predict if your husband will cheat on you, or lie to you. At this point my Husband did not mind. Why would he need to message/call him if they are sharing a room together? When I asked why there were none for me he said it was because we are married and I am home everyday. Plus, always remember, even if your marriage doesnt ultimately work out regardless, it was far from your fault and you shouldnt take your insecurities into a future relationship or marriage. Thats great that he wants to work things out.but does he still see the other woman every day? With just a few of your husbands basic details to get started, this tool can produce a wealth of information about his recent communications. My problem is my husband is trained to keep secrets. I axcept, the other lady then got married to other man. I still feel like hes cheating on me. Everything he has tried that made some great steps in the beginning.changed jobs, changed cell phone numbers, now has a dumb phone, prayed as a family.all stopped over that last 4 months. It doesnt matter what I would do if I were you.what matters is that you follow your intuition. Act like you are worth more than how he treats you. I have caught my husband cheated on me yesterday. Why are you wasting your time with him? I did not waste my time to put effort into getting hard facts. Im crying for you right now, because I wish someone would have warned me about what my life was going to be like if I stayed with him!! He admitted he told her not to email on his days off or at night because he would be with me. He doesnt take as much time for me as he could. When you find out a husband or partner has been cheating with another woman, many wives feel embarrassed and want to hide this information. Hi, I was cheated on about a year ago by my husband! She started work and it was all good except he started to care a lot more about his apperence. Stay strong everyone. I dont know what to do. Love advice for women and men, couples, and singles looking for love. That is, if I thought he was cheating, he wouldnt bring it up again unless I did. I dont believe this crap for a second and I prayed on it. Hello my husband and I have been together for 12 years married for 6. Sometimes when were jealous and suspicious, we drive husbands away from us. I go to his facebook messages. 1st clue that there was evidence! Blessings, Laurie .-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlens last blog postMoney Skills Tips for Teaching Financial Literacy to Kids =-. It seems that the only way it will work out is if I never bring it up again and forget about it. May you find wisdom, hope, and guidance. They will try to blame you for not being able to trust. I want to believe he still loves me but it is really hard. Dont waste your time in a bad relationship. I can say that you know the answer to the question on whether he was faithful or not on your honeymoon. I know you are busy and probably wont respond, but maybe you will. When I found out his girlfriend, the only girl he has dated since our divorce a year and a half ago, was someone he had met at his old job, I asked, Were you having an affair. He looked down at the floor and said, No, No. I hardly knew her when I worked there. My prayer is that you rally the courage to find the answers that are in your gut, and that you become strong and wise enough to face what you know to be true before it causes more damage in your life. Ami, You need to walk away and let him work it out with his wife. He has promised me he wouldnt get drunk while out of town but he does anyways and is always w her getting drunk. Home About Us The First Step Read or Listen What We Offer Reviews Contact. How did she end up being at the same bowling ally? We had to get married and had our son 6 mos. I also saw she hadnt responded to him. Be happy. My children had such an unpredictable childhood and the guilt and shame I feel now only adds to the pain this man has caused me. He only deletes txt he doesnt want me to see and it makes it hard for me to move past the whole cheating in the beginning. 7 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Stopped Calling and Texting, Is Your Husband Using Facebook to Cheat on You? He didnt answer my calls. Faithfulness and marriage will become something of the past and soon enough obsolete. To learn more from Gary Neuman, readhis bookThe Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It. Cam trying to handle this like an adult. Please feel free to come back anytime and let me know how youre doing! Since the discovery of an affair, it may be hard to believe that your spouse has any concern for you at all. He mentioned a list of requirements that he has for a partner. i just keep finding conversations with him and other girls. He wants me to leave because he doesnt support me anymore and he doesnt want to live with me anymore. I just want him to be honest. I agree with you 100%. our first four years have been very challenging, we both drank alot and would argue alot, he never tried to get close to me emotionally, mentally,or physically. i also foung his cell phone with very graffic details from the girl & ny husband. Weve been apart for almost half of our relationship due to school and the army. my husband and i have been separated for 2 months he slept with a co-worker twice in one night and still has her number and talks to her we have been sleeping together and talking the last three weeks the first week we started talking he slept with another girl and lyed and said he didnt answer because he slept in late for work he admitted all this to me except the talking to the co-worker i found that out my self you says he only loves me but wont let me know what he has been saying to her and wont let me see his phone what do i do. If you cant trust your husband because you believe he is lying about cheating on you, then you need to reevaluate your marriage and your relationship with your husband. What should I think, say or do knowing that my husband of 5 years, has a new female best friend 25 years younger than he is. there is a buildup some where where tension is making him seem very low. I wouldnt have asked if he didnt lie in the first place! Ive just finished writing a book about saying I love you, and one of the chapters is about rebuilding your marriage after an affair. we have 3 kids together, i just dont know what i should do. I have done nothing to him ive never cheated on him never flirted with guys. It broke my heart because I trusted him. If you want to know how to do this too, go to his Google search box and type every single letter in the alphabet ONE at a time. I can tell you this . Take comfort in knowing that your husband thinks the world of you. anyway this was a year ago, but now recent months we have had so much quarrels and argues and that has made him to be even more passive when it comes to our relationship. i have been checking everything his computer, his mobile, his pockets, but i do not find anything! He swears im the only woman he loves and wants. And to all the women in fl beware of christy bowen she is know for being the other woman and I think she likes it. hi! When i confronted him on them he said i knew that you saw those and its not cheating. My husband admitted he never stopped 4 ongoing emotional affairs during our entire marriage. Let him see that youve chosen to be above him and treatment of you. I dont want to have to keep changing schools for my son right now I rather he be in a stable place. I was in such a state about Mom, that clearly I wasnt thinking but did email her and assumed by hearing from me and knowing my mother was dying , this woman woukd have the decency to respect boundaries. I know that sounds harsh, but you know better. 1) About three months ago, after I got out of the shower, my husband said I was ugly with a towel on my head and demanded I take the towel off immendiately. I talked to his mom about it to and she claims i am jelouse of her. And i think he is starting up again. Your gut is telling you something, and you need to listen to it. Your email address will not be published. My neighbor husband is cheating on his wife throughout their marriage. Your venting helped me put the missing pieces together. I asked him over and over. They dont have childrenHe is still cheating wht a woman named Cecilia for the past 9 years. Men with this should NOT get married. Its very very hard. That and Narsassistic Abuse!!! So I blocked her and him and I fought. One time I was at his house, and he told me to go upstairs and go lay down. You are to good to spend your life being lied to he has broken his vows to you on more then one occasion. Then my husband finally confessed that they were having virtual sex (he swears nothing physical happened). I told him I was leaving him and he begged me to stay, offered to go to counseling for a sex addiction. They shared lovely emails and text messages which my husband always deleted. He could just as easily be having problems at work or may have someone like a health scare that he doesnt want to burden you with yet. And I swear I never nag him, I never tell him what he can and cant do, Im guessing by now he probably is cheating on me. I then started checking his phone and his FB messages which talk about he they slept together and him having to pay for her morning after pill. End of discussion. And she said she thought so to until one day she asked to borrow his phone real quick, and he walked away for a quick second. he hides his phone from me or he just keeps it really close to him and never lets me use it. But honestly, YES, hes cheating again. In fact hes always been a huge anti-cheater. Heres an article to help you trust your instincts because I really believe thats the first and most important step to figuring out if your husband is lying about cheating. I know he is going to the barracks rooms at night but I cant prove anything. Your marriage is sacred, and when your husband chooses to violate it, it leaves you feeling all kinds of emotions. Then about 4 years ago, I was telling a joke to my other neighbors and there he was laughingI introduced myself to him. Her taunting and stalking and laughing at me along with his abuse has made me literally very sick. I have been married almost 2 years. But again I was wrong. My husband and i have been together for 6 or 7 years now and married for 3 years. Hi, I read your comments and stories and i just want to share mine. I dont like his job because he has accepted gifts from other women and is a server at an asian restaurant. I could not handle the rejection from my husband . He opens the car door for me and asks me to wait in the car while he comes around to my side to open it. Im trying to think about my kids who are in the middle of this situation. Your friend sounds like he was the cheater all the time..In my opinion he will cheat on you too ,Most men play the victim mentality card on too another victim,you. With the phone calls . His mom died of cancer and the truth came out on her death bed..she lived in fear all their married life. I have started to ask if he is involeved with some other woman and the answer is always no, but i can not believe his answer, i just cant! Ive learned now, after much pain and suffering that once a cheater, always a cheater. I had doubts, is it really true, maybe this just started because of the distance that had been between us. You both need to be in a safe place sweetheart I am so sorry you are going through this scary stuff please tell someone that will get you out of harms way. I had two small daughters to care for and wasnt into him leaving partying for days on end. It finally evolved to me confront my husband about them being emotionally attached to one another(since that was obvious especially on her end). please give me some advice. I am currently getting help for my self..which he stated that he wanted to help me, he told me he was going to end his affair..but he still said he didnt feel the same about me ..I still love him very much. Do yourself a favor and move on start dating someone else AND NEVER BOTHER WITH HIM AGAIN. Thinking that I had known everything now and maybe we could be stronger, I married him. You could be the most confident woman in the world, yet because your marriage is on the rocks due to a cheating husband, you instantly feel your self-esteem take a hit. I dont mean to offend anyone, and I am not speaking from a place of moral judgement. I LET THEM because I thought I was wrong!! I then asked if he knew where they may have gone? It was at a horrendous time too when Is just been dealt another loss! On weekends he spent all his time at the office, often 24 hours at a time. Other red flags include: he put a lock code on his phone (he has something to hide), he is not intimate physical (he could be getting it elsewhere, or might get it elsewhere in the future) if u have kids he could be trying to keep the dead relationship for the sake of the children it sounds like maybe you should consider talking out your problems and if you dont get the answer you are looking for, things remain the same, or you find yourself unhappy all the time, consider living apart for a while and rebuilding your self esteem (pamper yourself, hang out with fun friends, focus on looking your best at all times even when alone, just have a huge mancation and seek to repair any emotional setbacks that you have experienced from your marriage). Question is I never ever receive any emoji sign from my husband , how can those love emoji are showing on his phone frequently used?? But he divide to have drink with this girl all night long then he said he and her did nothing except drinking and talking. I know. Which is why you should be honest, letting your husband know that you want to take your time to get to know each other and even date again. Im not sure of my feelings because of all the hormones! We still live together but I dont have sex with him. So, that whole time I felt so insecure about her for no reason. It hurts me, but he doesnt believe in it. so i confronted him about it and he suddenly get angry. He always travelling, telling me he gonna go for work, but in the middle in the night he doesnt want to answer my call? Jan, you are correct in a round about way. He takes longer and gazes into my face and eyes as we connect and calls my name as we reach the crescendo, and then cuddles me afterwards. He said when he woke up he asked her and she said they did but didnt believe. 11 Core Values in a Relationship and Why They Are Important, When to Let Go of a Long-Distance Relationship and How, 8 Signs Youre Not Sexually Compatible and How to Handle It, How to Overcome Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style, Lack of Communication in a Relationship: Causes, Effects, and Tips, What Makes a Man Want to Protect You? if so, than sex is not the issue here. He now uses a bactrack breathalyzer everyday after work. He is a Godly man etc. I never cheated on him. The guy still keeps saying he loves me and want to change but I gave him 2 years thats enough and one year of legal procedures. I will never do anything like that again. He is the only one I have ever been with. My neighbors and I see her all the timebut not the wife. He admitted after dropping me off at the airport, he went to work on his day off, listened to her voicemail to retrieve her number. Sad that people say guys who cheat hang out with other guys who cheat when a matter of fact, my friend is getting g a divorce with his wife because she is the infidelic person. We may earn a small commission on purchases made through our links. I heard how much he had changed and wanted to plan a happy retirement and travel for the rest of time we had left. Let me ask you something Teresaare you on a lot of narcotics? According to a recent Gallup poll, having an affair is one of the most immoral things someone can possibly do. The open and honest communication you and your husband are having now is awesome. He Denies it and try to cover it up . With another mans wife. I feel like he will cheat again. It never happened. WellI have no way of knowing if your husband and sister are both lying about cheatingbut I think you need to listen to your gut instincts. Dear reader, Please help me am confused and i dont know what to do or where to go, i bought my husband a ticket to go to Tunisia on 17juin 2014 when he arrived the next day he phoned me from that country and he i have not heard from him till 27 juin, i tried to phone him without success he bought a ticket on 18 juin next day and flew to morroco, i had that thing say to me that he is cheating because this is not the first time i confronted him but he denies all the times i found numerous time phone numbers that he was calling morocco and i tried that number and that was a women who replied to me and saying his name, when he came back home he hide his passport i asked him where he was he told me that he was in tunisia but he was not i search for hi passport and found it when i confronted him he just ripped the pages of the passport and he gave me the passport to check i can see there is missing pages in the passport he walked away he kept silent till now please help me i dont know what to do. Also wrapping legs around leg of chair is a sign of restraint, of holding back, and not being honest. ? Teresa, Ive read many posts on this site and believe most of the women posting have a pretty clear example of cheating, or lying, or some sort of evidence. But, he did. I ask him what they talk about he said nothing nothing turned out to be numerous phone calls when i was a t work and sleep. Currently I was told that my wife went up to the super market to go shopping. He tells me that its not professional and theres other ways. My husband and I have 3 kids, the youngest is 2 years old now. Whether its your husband cheating or you being overly sensitive or paranoid, I dont know. HE WENT BACK HOME TO HIS WIFR IN N.C. AND LEFT MEH IGH AND DRY. I said, she deserves better than you and so do I.. Im done with these games. Lied to me he was with his parents. He had too much free time and was making good money. If they fail us, we go through life with an incorrect assessment of our own self worth . Youll find it helpful and enlightening to read the comments about cheating below. Youre picking up on signals and signs, and your gut instincts arent wrong. Its just so easy. And I said what did she want and he said she was just returning the call. Open your eyes and dont be so naive. Just remember, no one is going to judge you as it wasnt you cheating on a partner youve done absolutely nothing wrong. I told him again dont lend out your phone it needs to stop . which means he notices her. Perhaps he cheated because he felt you withheld sex; however, youre likely going to want to work at your marriage before youre intimate with him again. He was only looking for attention and compliments. I had three babies asleep in the house. You have to think of all the heartache involved with EVERYONE in the family! We spoke of how much we loved each other, sex was never an issue as we are/were both sexually attracted to each other, so I thought. He does not value your marriage AT ALL. So I have NEVER suspected my husband of cheating til recently. I just need your help to get a plan so that I can save money and be moved out by the end of this year. Wise up. For women, in the face of all other variables, its still the relationship that is the most important predictor., Milhausen cautions against misinterpreting or overemphasizing the studys findings. im not miseryabl at all im very happy all the time but just this moment i cant anymore i want to die but my boys and my parents and brother and my sster and my neices and my brothers and my boys more i dont want him to make my kids said anymore cause he yells alot he is wonder ful withthere educaton very strick but like a simple like a glass og water spills it not good my kids when they do somthing they are scaried like mom they tell me im fine it nothing it fixable or whatever we can clean it up but they are freighten wha i would do but whenthey tell me im okay about it aww poor babaies well sorry for typos but im sure u cant makeitout and it funny all the crap i have expericened i say to myself to write a book he dont put his hands on me at all its his brain i reAlly think he had the bypolor or whatever it could be but he smart. I think you must know the pain the wife would suffer should you have an affair with her husband given you understand the pain the husband went through eight years ago at his wifes alleged affair. I dont know what else to do. Hes asked what can he do to fix this. Ive done itbut it goes against my God given instincts.. He swore up and down for one week saying he didnt know. I, too, would recommend you run. He gets all happy and giddy. He REFUSES to go to counciling with me and i told him its because hes affraid a professional will expose him and his lies! He owes you half of everything. Pls, help me and I need ur advise. A month went by and I noticed he had notifications on his phone from it so I opened it up. How would you proceed if you were me? I heard him say, I called you yesterday but you were out of it. I dont know if my story helps you at all, its pretty grim. He didnt really show any type of compassion at all. They like what they see. Do you have to wait until the lease is up to separate? Three kids later and feeling like Ive wasted my life on this abusive man I found out he was having an emotional online and over the phone affair with someone from college when our son graduated. Its definitely disturbing. Ive been dating my bf in a long-distance relationship for 1 year. Get out from this destructive relationship It will not get better. He would even try and hide it, but I loved him soo much I didnt see what may never change with him. She took lots of narcotic pain pills and it changed her personality. I to prayed That The Lord would reveal to me what I needed to know! Because if he can lie to a woman with whom he has taken a vow, whats he going to do to a person with whom he has never taken a vow and to whom he has absolutely no commitment? And good men get cheated all around and you fail to see them when you meet them so maybe you should stop blaming nature and men and start figuring out whats wrong with you. I am so sorry youre going through this, and I wish he didnt cheat on you. sometimes when we woman are too much questioning men we pushing them far. It doesnt mean were stupidit just means that were human. Before you learn how to confront a cheater, prepare yourself for the obvious: The majority of cheating spouses will deny-deny-deny cheating until they are blue in the face. I cant tell you if you should leave him, or if hes cheating. And he even try to contact his ex. dont go looking for an excuse, end it right then and there. So frantically I called & text all night in to themorning & he didnt answer! He mentioned to them that he was leaving me. Does he insinuate you are crazy? Or goes to work. Every time i ask him, he is angry and he reacted so much, he is not sweet as i know him before we got married, for now he loved our 4 months son, is he really cheated on me? 5 Signs, 5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting, Are You in Love With a Married Man? Of course he denied cheating. Im 18yrs old and Im having an affair with a guy whos 37 he always accuse me of cheating becuz Im sexy everyone wants me sometimes I get so fed up of it he constantly keep pushing and accusing me until I found out hes acting different when I ask him if hes cheating on me becuz my sister saw him with a nxt woman. Yes he made the whole story up. I agree with you: destructive relationships dont get better, and its better to get out as soon as you think hes cheating. I know he was with other people before we got together and he says she is a stalker but I talked to her and she knew everything about him. Im only 20, his supporting me, I dont have a job because he doesnt want me to have one, Im a stay home pregnant mom. To focus on ME, and whats left of my life .. and Heal from this, all while knowing I am doing the most loving thing for ME. Like someone having a baby. I dont know why I tried for years and years and hoped that someday it would get better. Then, he tells me that his co workers say that I call his job ask to speak to people and hang up. Four months in I discover hes cheating I find emails to women whom he answered ads for on the personals of craigslist. I suspected my partner having a one off fling and I ask him to take a lie detector test in our home which no one would know about and he refuses to do that to save our 20 year relationship and 4 kids, I recently found out that my friend had been secretly meeting at my partners place IV overheard her say to him long time no see, they had only seen each other an HR prior, my partner and I were arguing over the fact that he gets to check my fone anytime he wants and he makes it a huge deal that I ask to check his, so I asked him for it while my mate sat next to me on the bed, and instead of him throwing the fone to me hes thrown it to my mate instead, I went on his fone account prior to this and had seen many early morning texts and fone calls at times she should be home with her man, my intuition is telling me theyve slept together numerous times and that when he threw her the fone it was so she cud delete the messages from his fone before she handed it to me, 3 months later I was sitting at his table and he all of a sudden slid over to me and said I slept with her and I have a few times just telling u wat u wanted to hear and then he goes back to denying it and it comes straight back up when hes angry telling me he slept with her and then back to he didnt, am I getting this right or not, so sick of the gutless games, just tell the truth and own it, Then I can finally dump this morons ass and prove to my kids hes lied to us all, because the BS he tells them Im so sick of being the one at fault. , 5 ways to respond when your Boyfriend Stops texting, are you in with! 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